Is this really love.. Throw me a freaking bone here!!

This is taken from tell me Pastor ....

Dear Pastor.
I would like to start by commending you on the great work you have been doing. I'm 24 years old and I have a huge issue. I have been talking to a girl ever since I was nine and she was about seven. I left the island when I was 12. I was back and forth for visits to see my family in Jamaica. This was every year and a half to two years. When in Jamaica, we would start up our relationship again. But whenever I left Jamaica, I would not keep in touch with her, which I have regretted. At one point, while away, I did not get to visit for four and a half years. She became very wild (slept with many guys) and she had a daughter at 19 years old. She doesn't even know who the father is. But I know it's one of two guys. One wants nothing to do with the child and the other never acknowledged the child until the child was old enough to walk. In fact, he beat her up when she told him she was pregnant and said the baby was not his.
That same guy is now trying to push himself back into her life. Well, I came back and once again we were back together. Pastor, I wish the child was mine. I treat her (the child) as if she is my own. I give her money for the child. She gets clothes and medication. I pay for her school fees and all the basic necessities that are needed. We have tried twice to have a baby, but both times have been unsuccessful. The problem is that this girl is very promiscuous. I send her money whenever I receive pay Is this really love.. Throw me a freaking bone here!! Grey_loader

, yet she still has been sleeping around. Every time I talk to her she says she going to change but ends up doing the same thing again and again. She has even had sex with the same two guys again. This all happened while we were together.
against our relationship
She has said that she needs the professional help of a counsellor or a psychologist. I admit that I am not a saint and I do have a girlfriend. I have lost my temper and abused her twice because of what she has done. I am not proud of what I did and I have cried about it privately and over the Phone with her. I have asked her and God for forgiveness. I have never cared for or loved anyone as much as I love her. My relatives are against our relationship and don't want me to be with her. They even went as far as to say I got "tied" by this girl. She started going to church with my mom but that still didn't stop her ways.
Pastor, I proposed to her and now she has stopped. I do believe her because I haven't heard anything with solid merit about any of her usual activities. But I wonder how long this will last. I do plan on marrying her and filing for her once she abstains from that lifestyle. Again, I know that I'm not perfect and I have made mistakes too.
Please be blunt and assertive. I await your honest opinion, if this relationship is to have a future.
J.C., United Kingdom

Dear J.C.,
I wish you well. You have much courage. I wouldn't say faith, but courage. After knowing these things about this woman and the life she has lived, you are still willing to marry her. I wish you well. And I hope that everything is going to go alright.
On the other hand, I wish that you would listen to your parents. They love you and they want the best for you. They told you that this girl "tied" you. That is nonsense. But they must be concerned about a son who is behaving as if his head is holding water.
You are a grown man and if you believe that you must have this woman in spite of all that you know, I repeat, I wish you well, as you go into the land of the unknown. Although you are only 24 years old, you have more guts than a calabash.

Obviously this kid understand the meaning of once upon a time.Look man can be fool but not so fool.I never believe in the tieing thing, but this has lead me to believe in it ,i wish that girl was my sisterin these hard times, i would get money every week.The most light i have ever seen is in america and if that dont change him he really, really have a problem.But seriously they say real Love never die but its obvious that this love was on a one way street at all times.Not saying this girl might not like him enuh, if you realize she cheats on him when he is away i guess she just cant do without sex,i have a suggestion buy her some toys.I would want to know this clown i would pay just to look at him he is a clown as i always say if you have to leave Jamaica, leave your partner because thats where it ends.If it is even for one week its a fact.